(Below is a chart that shows the emotional journey of an “abuse cycle”.) There are five main categories of abuse. Each type of abuse as listed below are sequential and will tend to build upon each other.
But in married couples this type of “one-downmanship” can spiral out of control damaging any chances of reconciliation or joy in the family setting.
are usually the first to arise based upon a persons inner state that they, the abuser, have been hurt by you.
This justification, when fully unconscious, as it is most of the time, will manifest itself eventually in the abusers words.
The bully mentality is at the top of the list for these behaviors.
Abuse is about stealing power psychically from another person. This list is meant to illustrate the many ways that we callously and quite commonly hurt one another.
The point of this article is definition so it may lead to recognition: when I am doing it, and when I witness it in others.
Condemnation may lead to some abstention of the behavior, but forgiving oneself and forgiving others for their being your “triggers” is paramount!
by Stephen Cocconi – Channeling Michael – 1996-2012 Abuse is a vague word.
It is vague because there are so many ways in which it can be perpetrated.
At its foundation is an experience of pain and suffering that someone is unconsciously transferred; enlisting someone else (almost always less powerful) in the torment as to diffuse it inside themselves.
Because the dynamic is about power and powerlessness abuse is usually passed from the stronger to the weaker.