The Russian exchange student who took me on a date to the 99 cent store.And, how could I forget the divorced dad who talked to me about his experiences at Burning Man for seven hours straight?
My twenties were a shit show — an endless stream of flings and one night stands, bad boyfriends ,and even worse breakups. I thought love wasn’t love unless it was complicated, loud, or forced.
Perhaps, that wasn’t it at all, but then, I had no idea what was. For far too long, the only thing I was providing my partners with was baggage, and that certainly wasn’t going to make me a catch.
In order to be a desirable partner, I actually had to possess qualities that could enhance the life of someone else. Creating New Relationship Goals First, I would be trusting.
After going through my last breakup, I finally paused to ask myself why I’m always falling for real winners.
It was high time to acknowledge my role in this string of failed relationships.
Instead of blaming the boys, it was time to analyze Alison.1.Owning Up To Past (Destructive) Relationship Behaviors After many years of research (read: dating), I learned that “demanding,” “always right,” and “severely codependent” weren’t qualities that people were looking for in a mate.If you’ve only ever been in happy, healthy relationships — congratulations. Unfortunately, that is not my story, and it may not be yours, either.If it were the case, then we wouldn’t spend so much time wondering if monogamy still exists, looking under our couch cushions for spare change and chivalry, or dubbing ourselves the hook up generation, would we?Truth: I am completely addicted to dating disasters. Oh, yes, there was the junkie who cheated on me with not one, but four of our coworkers.The emotionally unavailable bartender who suddenly moved to Mexico with his girlfriend.